Choir, Friendship, Belonging

Nicky’s son Christopher joined Wakefield Cathedral Choir in January 2022 and as she explains, despite often facing struggles with change and in social situations due to autism, Christopher has taken the role of Chorister in his stride.

“In January my son received a letter inviting him to try the choir.  He was enthusiastic and coming from a background of singing in choirs I was happy to bring him along.  I can honestly say it is the best decision we have made for us both.

“Christopher is autistic and can struggle with change and in social situations but from the first rehearsal and service he seemed to fit in. In the last 6 months he has found a safe and nurturing group of friends and has grown in confidence in himself as well as his singing.  He can become easily upset and angry and stressed emotionally,  last week I brought him very angry but by the time he finished he was calm, lively and smiling a complete change.  It is truly the one place I know he is OK and do not have to worry about him.

“He is not the only one who has benefited from joining the choir.  I have found friends and social contact as well as appreciation of the quiet time and services in the Cathedral. I have felt welcomed by everyone and feel that I belong.  It also gives me time where I do not stress about how Christopher is and this has truly all helped improve my mental health.   I am so grateful for this choir, other parents, choristers and the leaders and clergy for making such a difference to our lives.”

Nicky and Christopher